Our Culture's Failing Marriages and Failing Relationships

The human body isn't designed to love and connect when it's in fear. Love and connection require peaceful environments. This is why couples connect to a much higher degree when they're on vacation, where the love often returns to much higher levels. The "spark" in your relationship is tied to what environment you both live inside of and what electricity that environment infuses both of you with.

 

Often a couple won't watch fear based "TV/Netflix" productions while on vacation because frankly it doesn't make any sense to fly halfway across the world, only to sit your ass down and watch a screen. When the fear and terror-based media is removed, that's when the spark often returns because the environment is more conducive to the higher vibrations that love requires. And yet, when the couple returns home from vacation, they quickly set back into the low vibration/low connection routines that keep them numb to a reality they often want to avoid. Fear based media modifies our nervous systems, so we stay numb for long periods of our life. That means we disconnect from our daily stressors, but it also means we disconnect from our partners as well.

 

Our "low love/low connection" cycles are often tied to our need to numb out and tranquilize ourselves to situations we would rather avoid dealing with. If we have an unsatisfying job, we'll want to zone out in front of the TV. We'll also want to zone out with coffee, alcohol, fantasies about a new partner, scrolling our phones, nicotine, vaping, narcotics and anything else that helps us disconnect. The common denominator here is that all poisons cause fear in the nervous system and that in turn causes the same disconnection as fear-based media. What looks like "regular destructive addictions" (like smoking and alcohol) can also be re-framed as "fear addictions". Fear addictions can then be further reclassified as "disconnection addictions". In the end, when we're in fear and disconnected, our happiness plummets and our relationships start to fail.

 

Reality is tough these days with most people working meaningless jobs and with abusive authority creeping into our lives at ever accelerating rates. Saying that, all these "fear and stressors" drive us further and further away from connecting deeply with the people around us. As we become addicted to substances and habits that keep us numb, we openly participate in the destruction of everything we need to find peace, tranquility and love in our lives. Your habits and environments build or destroy your relationships. If you want love in your life, you'll need to start reviewing both. You can't be disconnected and deeply in love at the same time. It's neurologically impossible.

 

How much of your energy is dedicated to numbing out from a reality that you don't want to face? How much caffeine, alcohol and screen time are you participating in? What are you trying to avoid? Is your "job" part of the pain that you're trying to disconnect from? How are your "numbing out cycles" affecting your relationship or marriage? If your marriage or relationship has already failed, will the next romance really be any better, if all you do is numb out and disconnect from yourself all day? Disconnection can also mean that you're not paying attention to your health, your finances or even to your soul as well. Is your entire life on fire a bit because you're not connected to it? There are solutions. It's never going to fix itself of course. Over the next few weeks, lots of discussion like this will be happening over on my website.....working toward a brand-new event occurring on Aug 9th.