My Long Personal and Ugly History of Self Sabotage - Including Marriage Self Sabotage

When you don't know how the world really works, things get tough in a hurry. 

I know that lots of people out there think I'm intelligent enough to write articles, speak publicly at some pretty big venues and run my own business. And yes, I can do all of that now, but when I was young... I was extremely unaware of how the world really works. I might appear to be doing OK today but, in the past, I was living inside a violent tornado of perpetual chaos. That chaos I constantly created for myself. Before I was an overcoming self-sabotage coach, I was a master self-saboteur. Some believe I was the king of self-sabotage. As they say, every master was once a disaster.

Due to this naivety (associated with never being taught how the world really works), I got myself into some pretty big trouble in life. To be honest, the trouble I made for myself was some of the biggest I've ever witnessed to this very day. I was up to my neck in self-sabotage. It was painful. I cried plenty, was suicidal at times and often gave up hope for something better. I caused misery and started fires in my own life and inside the lives of everyone who had the unfortunate pleasure of coming into contact with me. 

When you're uninformed (and I was), life becomes a series of never-ending crisis and disasters. My life was no exception. When I look back at the younger Jason Christoff, I just wish someone would have sat me down and said, "hey Jason, this is how the world really works and if you know these secrets, you won't generate so much pain for yourself or others over the years." 

I feel the worst about my parents and the women I used to date. When I look back, I would change everything to protect these people from the perpetual fire starter that I was in my youth. I guess my work today is an act of penance for the pain I've caused them and many others as well. To anyone I've hurt in the past...I am sorry.

I knew nothing about group pressure and how that force steers most of our decisions in life. I used to think, like most other people, that I was making my decisions organically. Psychological research proves that we make the vast majority of our decisions because of group pressure affiliations.

Humans feel safer in the majority (the bigger group), so we're just most likely to follow the herd, regardless of any other factor. Below is a 4-minute video about group pressure, which demonstrates that we'll join the group most of the time, even if we know the group is wrong. I didn't know any of this when I was young and because of this lack of knowledge, I followed the group most of the time.....even though doing so made me depressed, unhealthy and almost cost me my life at times. We're born natural followers. It takes knowledge and discipline to become a true leader.

Group pressure dynamics are the most powerful force in all human behavior. Group pressure is also the foundational cornerstone of mind control, which I review in my documentary PLANET MIND CONTROL, just incase you want to fully understand how group pressure can make you participate in behaviors that are irrational, illogical, unhealthy and even fatal. Being one with the bigger group equates to safety, inside the human nervous system. 

Due to this invisible force, moving me in one direction or another, (outside my conscious awareness) I would just mimic, copy and emulate what the herd was doing.......and that included downloading my primary behavioral profile from media. Whatever is most repetitive, whether in real life or through what we see in the media, that becomes the behaviors we want to pursue, in order to acquire safety in the group. As a side note, this is why all media today is negative, dark, unhealthy and self-destructive......because the "powers that shouldn't be" can't maintain their control over us unless we're super messy. 

I drank alcohol because that's what the media taught me was safe, inside the group. I did narcotics because that's what the media taught me was safe, inside the group. I did steroids because the media messaged me constantly that being more muscular was safe. I went to university, not because I really wanted to, but because that's where the herd was migrating to next. I did everything the group was doing and got everything the group was getting.......which was an unhealthy, depressing and rather empty existence. That took its toll on me, as I've written about before, ending with suicide contemplation, for well over a decade. 

Like a bad cologne called chaos, I couldn't shake the scent. I just didn't know about a few key pieces of information (secrets), which would help me move up in life. I was stuck. I was a hard worker, I just didn't have the right knowledge, so I kept digging downward hoping that the next drug, party or big purchase would finally make me happy. Little did I know that everything I was experiencing was a well laid out trap and that certain groups in our society can only generate profit for themselves when lots of people are depressed, dysfunctional, diseased, dis-oriented and death centric. 

This self-sabotage continued long into my first marriage unfortunately. You could say that this lack of knowledge played a large part in the gradual erosion of that union as well. When you don't understand "why you do what you do" or "why you believe what you believe", you'll constantly walk into one bucket of shit in life and then quickly jump out into two more. Some people never get out of this cycle but I did. That I am thankful for. Better late than never, as they say. The comeback story is always available to us. Everyone loves a good comeback story.

I guess now I'm the person saying, "hey, if I could just give you some key pieces of knowledge about how this world really works, I know your life would improve every year, for the rest of your life." If you're out there right now and suffering in anyway, I am sorry. It doesn't have to be like this. I know what it's like to feel stuck. I would like to help you avoid any unnecessary suffering in your life. It doesn't feel good to live like that. I know what it's like to hit rock bottom, to be crying at the bottom of that pit and to feel sorry for all the damage you've done to yourself....and others. 

I guess my most important message is........it's not you, it's the system. It's a game, a trap and a business model for certain groups on this planet. Your misery, failures and hopelessness is profit energy for certain folks here with us. How about this? How about you and I step out of all this non sense? How about you learn the secrets you need to know, and we rocket out of here together? Does that sound like a good plan? 

You already know that I teach these secrets in my overcoming self-sabotage coaching program. You'll overcome your own self sabotage and then I'll show you how to start a coaching venture where you'll do the same for others. You'll hold the secrets inside yourself and teach the secrets to your clients. I've made it so that everyone can afford to join with our new payment plan. You'll get every paid program I've ever offered for free, and so does everyone in your family. You get to work with me LIVE once a week, so you can learn these secrets slowly and digest this simple information at the right pace. There's a LIVE Q and A with me every class, where you're permitted to ask me anything about everything. If you can't make a class, it's recorded and sent to you right away. You can even email your Q and A questions in and I can answer them LIVE as well. Beyond all the amazing value you (and your family) receive with this program..........the big question is..........are you ready to learn these secrets and move up? Are you ready to smile more? Are you ready to uplift yourself, others and your community? Are you ready to live life in the betterment, happiness and smile zone? 

If you are, click here to investigate, learn more and to secure your spot. We take 100 students once per year. This is our 12th semester. You get a private community for support, off social media, so what you say and do isn't tracked. You get all the big secrets starting with health, finances and overcoming self-sabotage psychology. There's 65 people already in the class right now and it starts in 6 days. You're free to email your questions to info@jchristoff.com. Once you email, we can write you back or arrange a ZOOM chat with you. Human to human contact is important. I look forward to sharing those big secrets with you on opening day.