The Good Life Finally Found Her and Then She Destroyed It.......Here's Why

Janice had what's believed today to be a pretty "normal life". She grew up in the countryside, inside a family that was a little on the poor side. They didn't want for clothing or food, but there wasn't much beyond that. There were no new cars or big fancy trips abroad. Only used cars and hard work in the garden over the summers. Clothing was passed down from sister to sister and brother to brother. All the children were well taken care of, in a very safe environment, but there were no luxuries or extras to speak of.

 

Janice watched some TV when she wasn't working around the home. The TV portrayed that the big city life was where all the fun was and that working for a corporation (like in the TV shows Laverne and Shirley or Mary Tyler Moore) was where financial security could finally be found. Due of this TV programming, it's no surprise that Janice dreamed of moving into the big city and getting a job, where she could finally start finding more pleasure in life. Janice walked lock step with this common TV mind control programming. She first enrolled in a big city University, with the full intention of seeking out the 8-6 dream life, with a big corporation as her strong urban protector.

 

Janice entered University and like all other University graduates, she learned nothing about health, self-care, exercise, morality, group pressure, healthy habits, ethics, who really runs the world or what the end goals of the ruling group are. She did learn lots of meaningless information and repeated that info on cue, in exchange for high grades......which conditioned her to fit perfectly into the big city corporate world. Janice was now trained perfectly to repeat her lines at her new place of work, without moral or ethical review, for a bigger than average pay cheque. Janice was now ready for the big city "pleasure filled" life, which she had always dreamed of. (because of the TV programs she watched)

 

That's when the first problems started, based on Janice's childhood programming. Janice was used to having very little, so she didn't have any practice working in the sphere of "self-control". or "tempered indulgence". Janice stopped eating in her childhood home, when the plate was clean. Repetition sets our behavior more than anything else and eating the plate clean was what Janice did daily, for almost 2 decades. That's a ton of repetition.

 

During Janice's childhood there was never really enough food for the family, so no one ever felt truly full. Cleaning the plate was essential in the old family home because there really wasn't enough food to go around. This ritual had become a deeply engrained behavior-based ritual in Janice's nervous system. In Janice's original family home, eating everything you could get your hands on was more of a survival-based habit. With bigger pay cheques from the big city corporate job, food was practically unlimited. We often call this in psychology THE PERFECT STORM.

 

Janice's weight started to balloon, and her health started to decline, from her childhood based overeating behavior program. Feeling tried and fatigued, from her soulless marriage to her big city corporate protector, Janice developed both a caffeine (coffee) addiction in the AM and a slight wine addiction at night. She quickly realized that she had very little time to cook, exercise or organize a proper healthy nest for herself, back at her urban condo. She started to see the writing on the wall but her lack of spiritual introspection (because they don't teach that purposely at school either) she didn't have the knowledge to challenge her original programs about big city living, which the TV purposely placed into her as a child. Yes, your TV is a vampire.

 

These behavior programs running in Janice's subconscious kept screaming, "this big city life with a corporate job is where you want to be, you made it girl, well done, you're a big success" but her daily experience said, "this pace of living is insane, I'm going to die behind this desk. No one will ever remember my name and I don't have any time to even breathe. I would rather a simpler life back in the country with the people I love around me". This became a mental game of daily push and pull, inside Janice's mind. Sort of like driving with two feet, with both the brake and the accelerator pushed down to the floor at the same time. There was lots of noise and action occurring, but Janice wasn't getting anywhere.

 

Janice then decided to at least go get a massage once per week, as her body was now full of subtle pain syndromes..... from the overeating and the stress of sitting at a desk all day, with no sunlight or exercise. While in the massage waiting room, a nice man struck up a conversation with her. It was a pleasant conversation, but Janice thought nothing of it. This nice man had a massage appointment at the same time every week, with another massage therapist. They became familiar with each other in the waiting room, over the next couple of months. This nice man eventually asked Janice out on a date.

 

The relationship became more serious over the next little while. It ended up that this nice man was a millionaire, came from a good family as well and had a very comfortable life. His name was Mike. Mike really loved Janice, and so he decided to take her to a beautiful 5-star super fancy all-inclusive hotel for their first big trip away as a couple. In Mike's family there was always enough food on the table, and you only took what food you needed.... simply because more food was always at the ready if required. In Mike's family, you never overate or made a glutton out of yourself. That was considered rude and lacking character. Mike's family programming was about grace, respect, elegance and self-control at all times.

 

Mike started to notice the speed by which Janice ate her food at the resort, like there was a race of some kind occurring in Janice's mind or that there was some fear the food would run out. This was Janice's old programming coming through from childhood and to be honest, it was the opposite of Mike's programming, Mike loved Janice the way she was (maybe 10-15lbs overweight) but during the trip, Janice's weight really started to balloon well past that, as she couldn't control her eating whatsoever. There was no self-control for Janice when she was around food, and she obviously didn't know that she was still stuck in her old childhood behaviors.

 

Mike really started to feel awkward when he found Janice stealing food in her napkin, to shuttle away later to eat in the hotel room....when being at an all-inclusive resort meant you could go back to the restaurant and eat at any time you wished. Mike found a large box of crackers and other packaged goods stolen from the main restaurant in Janice's luggage. When Mike asked, "why are you doing that?", Janice said "it's gifts for my family".

 

In the end, Janice's childhood programming (that you need to eat your plate clean; a belief food and pleasure were rare events and that you throw away all self-control when food is available) was the opposite of Mike's programming. (grace, respect, elegance, abundance and self-control) Mike tried to kindly explain his "normal" to Janice, but Janice's lack of knowledge regarding "why she was behaving the way she was" won out in the end. After the trip, Mike decided that he needed a partner more aligned with his normal, so he broke off the relationship in a kind and respectful way. Janice was upset of course but she also wasn't willing to address her childhood behavior programming, which obviously will never serve her. To this day, Janice is on a one-way ticket to an early and lonely grave, working for her soulless corporate husband in the big city.

 

All our lives are the result of our programming. The beauty of our behavior programming is that you can change your programming at any time. We don't have to stay the same. We don't have to stay overweight, broke and disempowered. It's a choice and we can break our chains at any time, if we just decide that we desire something better in life. With knowledge, comes choice. Changing your programming is easy, fun and rapid. I'm teaching a course in January 2026 about how to identify and change any faulty behavior programming that you may have. If you want to get added to the waiting list (so you can get alerted when we open the doors), please email [email protected].